You probably won’t be bereaved for long before someone tells you about the five stages of grief. You likely knew of these even before you lost your loved one. This description of the grieving process came from research done in the 1960s when Elisabeth Kubler-Ross interviewed people facing death due to illness.
For reasons that I have never fully grasped, the five-stage model of how people respond to their own imminent deaths became almost universally accepted as an accurate description of what happens when you lose a loved one. (A similar transformation may have caused the political party of Abraham Lincoln to become the political party of Donald Trump.) At any rate, five decades later everyone from members of the general public to grief counselors and other mental health professionals accepts that this model describes the experience of bereavement.
The problem is that the five-stage model does not describe…
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