Shared via Gary Roe – It Was All So Sudden | The Grief Toolbox

Sudden loss is shocking.Like a missile out of the blue, it can devastate our world in an instant.It happened so quickly“It happened so quickly. One minute he seemed fine, and the next he was gone. It was all so sudden,” Connie said through her tears.Matt had been mowing the lawn. He came inside, sat down in his recliner and feel asleep.He never woke up.Connie’s eyes said she was still in shock. She couldn’t wrap her mind around what had happened, much less her heart.The unique challenges of sudden deathSudden death comes with unique challenges. You didn’t see it coming. It took you by surprise. There was no final, “I love you.” You didn’t get to say goodbye.How could you not feel unfinished? Things were left unsaid and undone. You wonder “What if…” or “If only…”Your heart is searching for solid rock in the midst of this free fall. What happened? Where did they go? How can this be?We want to say:“You were just here. How could you be gone?” Be it sudden or anticipated, life is always gone in an instant. When it departs, the shock waves are immense.There is no protection against this. When it hits, we are left to make sense of the rubble.Be kind to yourselfBe kind to yourself. Watch the expectations you place on yourself, or that others attempt to place on you. You’ve been hit. Healing and recovery is going to take time. Grief is a process that will not be hurried.Look to your heart, and focus there. This is going to be a tough, unpredictable ride.It is possible to provide security against other ills, but as far as death is concerned, we men live in a city without walls. – EpicurusAdapted from the bestselling Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (USA Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist). Watch the Heartbroken video here.

Source: It Was All So Sudden | The Grief Toolbox

About Sue Rosenbloom, M.A., C.T.

Thanatologist: Loss and Grief Specialist - My blog is for educational purposes only. I am not a licensed professional counselor - Bachelor of Arts in Human Studies - Marylhurst University (2007)- Certificate in Thanatology - Hood College (2008) Master of Arts in Thanatology - Hood College (2009) Certificate in Thanatology - The-Association for Death Education and Counseling (The highest level of loss and grief education). * Hospice, Alzheimers and Senior's Advocate * Former first responder for Trauma Intervention Program, Inc. (TIP) * Hospice and Bereavement Volunteer for Providence Hospice Bereavement Program * Association for Death Education and Counseling Member * National Alliance for Bereavement of Children * Hood College Thanatology Association * American Group Psychotherapy Association * Marylhurst Gerontolgy Association * Oregon Gerontology Association * Hospice, Loss, Grief and Bereavement Researcher * Creative Writer
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