When something bad happens to someone you care about, you want to find the perfect  words of comfort to make it all better. But the truth is there are no words that will make  it better. Your words of love and support can comfort and ease the pain, but no words  will be able to take it away. I see grief as a journey and with each painful step the load  lessens, as if you were dropping pebbles from your packet on each bend in the trial. So  don’t get caught up with trying to find the right words. Keep it simple. Say things like,  “I’m sorry, I’m here for you,” or “If you need to just talk, I am a phone call away.” – by  Kelly Buckley who lost her 23-year-old son unexpectedly, and wrote “Gratitude in Grief”

“When a friend is grieving, your consistent, compassionate, (even) wordless presence is far more helpful than unhelpful platitudes and hurry-up-and-get-over-it-un-asked-for- advice.” ~ Sue Rosenbloom

About Sue Rosenbloom, CT, MA

Thanatologist: Loss, Trauma, Crisis, Death, and Grief Educator - My blog is for educational purposes only. I am not a licensed professional counselor - Bachelor of Arts in Human Studies - Marylhurst University (2007) Certificate in Thanatology - Hood College (2008) Master of Arts in Thanatology - Hood College (2009) Certificate in Thanatology - The-Association for Death Education and Counseling (The highest level of loss and grief education). * Hospice, Alzheimer's and Senior's Advocate * Former first responder for Trauma Intervention Program, Inc. (TIP) * Former Hospice and Bereavement Volunteer for Providence Hospice Bereavement Program * Association for Death Education and Counseling Member * National Alliance for Bereavement of Children * Hood College Thanatology Association * American Group Psychotherapy Association * Hospice, Loss, Grief and Bereavement Researcher
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