Father grieving his 11 year old daughter’s tragic death by suicide – http://www.inforum.com/news/4373686-madissens-secret-grieving-devils-lake-father-raising-awareness-after-11-year-old#.WjLEv2HkC5t.link


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“The One” is a Destructive Concept


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Over the weekend I had written up a blog that was essentially a 1,000 word rant about how I hate the fact that I have to do the whole dating thing again and I hate the modern dating culture, both Mainstream and Church, even more. The tantrum in blog form rivaled my 2 year old’s greatest outbursts. As amusing as it would be to post it I know I am better than that and my purpose in writing is to move forward with healing and hope, not to whine. So, I decided to shift my focus to a related topic.

I’ve already written once about how I don’t believe in soulmates so I’ll try not to repeat myself, rather, I’d like to dive in to why, not only do I not believe in soulmates or “the one”, but I think the very concept is destructive.

Widows and widowers are often…

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Grief as a Mystical Journey: Fowler’s Stages of Faith Development and Their Relation to Post-Traumatic GrowthJournal of Pastoral Care & Counseling – Terri Daniel, 2017


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Yes, You Can Measure Grief And Here’s How


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“You can’t measure grief,” is something I have heard numerous times as I’ve written about evidence-based bereavement coping strategies. I don’t think these statements mean anything like, “I have studied this matter at length and tried many different methods and I have concluded you can’t measure grief.”

I think it’s more along the lines of, “I haven’t really thought about it before but I can’t see any obvious way to measure grief. It’s not like, say, height and weight. And, besides, I’m a little offended that anyone would presume to say that my deeply personal feelings about loss can be measured like my shoe size.”

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With all that in mind and with apologies where appropriate, you can measure grief. Researchers, therapists and others have dozens of tools to evaluate the intensity, duration and nature of grieving symptoms. Some have been around for decades. Some have gone through numerous revisions. They…

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Gratitude Amid Grief


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Ray Wiley Hubbard is a Texas singer who was popular in the 1970s and a few years ago had a small revival. One of his later releases is “Mother Blues,” which concerns events in a Dallas nightclub of that name. Overall the song is only modestly entertaining, but the last lines stuck with me. They go like this:

And the days that I keep my gratitude

Higher than my expectations

Well, I have really good days

racism-2779943_1280I tend not to read much significance into song lyrics. However, when they memorably summarize a concept supported by objective and reliable evidence, song lyrics can be useful. And something about the way Ray Wiley put this worked for me. Keeping my gratitude just a hair higher than my expectations was something I could visualize. It was something I thought I could do.

Since then, when I feel down I’ll sometimes envision…

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Grief Healing: Coping with The Holidays: Suggested Resources 2017


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