You Were Just Here | The Grief Toolbox

When we get hit by loss, our hearts are stunned. Our loved one was just here. What happened? From the Grieving Heart:How could this happen?This can’t be real. You’re going to walk through that door any moment, I just know it.The tears start to flow. They morph into sobs. I can hear myself screaming.Yes, I feel sick. My stomach is churning. I’m lightheaded. The room is spinning.Breathe. Yes, I must breathe. Somehow.Is this what a broken heart feels like?No, this can’t be real. You were just here. I swear I can hear your voice.I’m closing my eyes. Please be there when I open them.Please.It hurts – badly.   Loss is shocking and powerfulWe’re in this together. Our hearts are connected. There are people we love dearly. When a loved one departs, there is a tearing that occurs. The separation of two objects glued firmly together is messy, and neither object is ever the same. Love lasts. It endures. When someone dies, our hearts love on. We look for them. We listen for their voice. Then, reality hits. They’re gone. We cry, sob, and even scream. The sudden intensity of grief can make us feel ill. We grieve because we dared to love. Loss is shocking and powerful.We let the tears flow. We let the sobs come. We scream if necessary. Our hearts are expressing our love through grief.We will never be the same. How could we be? A tearing apart has occurred, and it hurts.  Affirmation: Because my love is deep, my grief may be intense. Tears are natural, and healthy. Adapted from the new release, Comfort for Grieving Hearts. To watch a brief video about the book, click here.

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About Sue Diane Rosenbloom, CT, MA

Thanatologist: Loss, Trauma, Crisis, Death, and Grief Educator - My blog is for educational purposes only. I am not a licensed professional counselor - Bachelor of Arts in Human Studies - Marylhurst University (2007) Certificate in Thanatology - Hood College (2008) Master of Arts in Thanatology - Hood College (2009) Certificate in Thanatology - The Association for Death Education and Counseling (the highest level of loss and grief education). * Hospice, Alzheimer's, and Senior's Advocate * Former first responder for Trauma Intervention Program, Inc. (TIP) * Former Hospice and Bereavement Volunteer for Providence Hospice Bereavement Program * Association for Death Education and Counseling Member * National Alliance for Bereavement of Children * Hood College Thanatology Association * American Group Psychotherapy Association * Hospice, Loss, Grief and Bereavement Researcher
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