I thought my days of having to listen to and tolerate the painful words of would-be comforters had ended, but I was wrong. Even as I approach almost 20 years after the deaths of my wife and two-year-old daughter in a multicar accident I still hear and endure upsetting statements from people who do not think before they speak.
Two weeks ago I had just finished speaking to a group of mourners at a bereavement dinner. I had been giving them tips on how to deal with the many troublesome emotions of grief. Suddenly I heard a question from behind me. “So your entire family was in the car at the time of the accident?” said a female voice. “That must’ve been horrible for you.”
As I gathered up my belongings from the podium, I turned to stare directly into the face of a woman just a few inches away…
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