I Feel Numb | The Grief Toolbox

The hits just keep coming, don’t they?By the time we’re young adults, usually most of us have gotten the message that life isn’t smooth or easy. It’s a virtual mine field.The death of loved one can be a debilitating explosion. If we’re not careful, we can go internal. After a while, we might even numb-out.  In the words of Sam“I’m just here. I don’t feel anything,” Sam said, staring out his living room window.“The world is still out there, but I’m not interested. It doesn’t seem to matter what I do or where I go. I’m going through the motions.”Sam paused and turned toward me.“I feel numb,” he whispered. Numb is naturalNumb. One definition reads “deprived of the power to feel; emotionally unresponsive, indifferent.”You’ve been hit and are suffering a sort of emotional concussion. Life becomes foggy. Fatigue comes in waves. You move in a daze.The color has gone. Everything is a dull grey.What happened? Where did she go? Why did he leave? What now?The questions swirl in your traumatized heart.No wonder you’re numb.Here’s a grief affirmation for today:“I’m numb. How could I not be? I love you.” Your heart has been hit, perhaps even traumatized. Be nice to yourself. Breathe deeply.Adapted from the bestselling Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (USA Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Award Finalist).

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About Sue Diane Rosenbloom, CT, MA

Thanatologist: Loss, Trauma, Crisis, Death, and Grief Educator - My blog is for educational purposes only. I am not a licensed professional counselor - Bachelor of Arts in Human Studies - Marylhurst University (2007) Certificate in Thanatology - Hood College (2008) Master of Arts in Thanatology - Hood College (2009) Certificate in Thanatology - The Association for Death Education and Counseling (the highest level of loss and grief education). * Hospice, Alzheimer's, and Senior's Advocate * Former first responder for Trauma Intervention Program, Inc. (TIP) * Former Hospice and Bereavement Volunteer for Providence Hospice Bereavement Program * Association for Death Education and Counseling Member * National Alliance for Bereavement of Children * Hood College Thanatology Association * American Group Psychotherapy Association * Hospice, Loss, Grief and Bereavement Researcher
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