Grief is the continued expression of love for a person no longer physically present in our lives. Therefore, to stop grieving over a person is to stop loving him or her. As one widow in a grief support group asked me, “You mean I don’t have to leave my husband in the past? Are you saying that I can take him into the future with me?” The answer is a resounding, comforting and hope-filled “Yes!” You can maintain a loving, healthy, healing relationship with someone who has died. Maintaining a spiritual, emotional bond to the loved one is not morbid or pathological.
Maintaining a relationship with a loved one who has died goes against what others may say to us that we need to let go or detach from the loved one and “move on.” Grief does mean saying goodbye to the physical part of the relationship we had with our…
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