We simply don’t want it to be. We can’t accept it. AND most of all we don’t want to accept it. When we first received the news of our loved one’s death, we rejected the news with such comments as:
- No, it can’t be.
- Are you sure? Somebody must have made a mistake!
- How can that be? I just talked with him/her yesterday!
- Maybe there’s been a mix-up in the medical charts. Hospitals can make a mistake!
- No! No!! No!!! No!!!! NO!!!!!
With every fiber of our being we fight a reality that we can’t wrap our minds around. How can someone be present one moment…and gone the next? We are like the two year old who has been told NO. He/she throws a temper tantrum with his/her whole body because he/she is rejecting a reality that he/she will not tolerate. When the news of our loved one is delivered we fight totally…
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