I found some notes that my late husband must have written soon after receiving the diagnosis that he had dementia, probably Alzheimer’s disease. It was written by hand, was not terribly clear, and it took me some time to decipher it. This is what he wrote:
“I know that I am going to have to be dependent on you at some stage of my illness and to me it seems morally irresponsible. Part of my fear is my personal revulsion at the thought of having to be fed and dressed by someone else some day. You must know how much I love you and I want you to be happy and live a full life without the demands of caring for me. Simply thinking about the pain you will experience is hard for me to contemplate. I don’t want you to feel isolated or resentful. Maybe I am over-reacting as I know you…
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